…by GOP leadership invoking the Almighty that it would be a girl, not a guy.
I am amazed by the stats on my last post.
I am, in fact, working on Part II. It’s extra-inflammatory so I’m working on it slowly. I’ve been reading a lot of Sandra Tsing Loh lately and I’ve been chuckling over how funny her imagery is-while she is a far superior writer, I think one thing we have in common is a talent for really funny imagery so I’m trying to actually polish it up and make it amusing rather than throwing something up there.
I just want to clarify that that I am not trying to make a point that divorces/divorcees are bad, evil or morally bankrupt. Most of my ire is at so-called relationship experts, actually. OTOH, the never ending stream of bad relationship news (and I don’t mean your divorce…but headline grabbing stuff and some of the situations I’ve been personally exposed to) has basically served to make me a fairly fearful person. I’m also slightly baffled by how I ended up with my sense of morality-I’m the bad one in the family! Am I the last person left on earth who can honestly claim that she wouldn’t cheat under any circumstances? Because I assure you that I am not “deluding” myself on that front. I don’t even effing cheat on my taxes or 7th grade geography tests and the thought of causing someone that type of pain actually physically causes my heart to clench.
Recently I told my parents that imbuing me with a sense of responsibility in terms of ethics and morality and responsibility towards other human beings had done nothing except hold me back professionally. I think I’d probably be happier as a backstabbing, pathologically lying, morally bankrupt, megalomaniacal, money hungry, emotional f*ckwit. From my experience they are quite complacent and unaffected by the drama they create in other people’s lives. Witness, flying off to snuggle your mistress on Father’s Day.
Something exotic, indeed.
June 25, 2009 at 3:44 am
“I think I’d probably be happier as a backstabbing, pathologically lying, morally bankrupt, megalomaniacal, money hungry, emotional f*ckwit.”
welcome to a few of my desi relatives….
June 25, 2009 at 12:49 pm
Having good ethics and morality does hold people back professionly, but I think it better for a your personal life.
And, I would never cheat on my significant other under any circumstances. I would end the relationship before I did that.
June 25, 2009 at 1:27 pm
I read the post title and first sentence to Manoj out loud so that we could both giggle maniacally. Heh.
I remember the first few years of working and how shocked I was at the behavior of some folks. 10 years later at the Fed, I was still a little shocked at it.
June 25, 2009 at 1:52 pm
Amen.
It definitely held my husband back at his last position — though, again, a lot of it is your perspective. We far preferred where we were and how we acted to being in any way mistaken for the “backstabbing, pathologically lying, morally bankrupt, megalomaniacal, money hungry, emotional f*ckwit[s].”
I sometimes feel sorry for those people. However, when I’m not feeling sorry I’m delightedly waiting for the universe to smack them down. And I’m very, very patient. One person in particular, if said person doesn’t end up in jail for misdeeds until the kiddies are in college, that’s fine with me. I can wait.
The husband is nicer and more forgiving than I am. Thank heavens.
June 25, 2009 at 6:37 pm
I suppose that’s the benefit of a less lucrative career. Backstabbing and lying aren’t going to necessarily be helpful to me in my career. I guess the worst I could get is rampant ass-kissery, but I prefer to just build relationships the old-fashioned way.
June 25, 2009 at 9:27 pm
As my parents pointed out, being ethical has its upside. I may stress about not being “ahead of the game” but I also don’t go to bed at night fearful and stressed about being found out and punished. I countered with the argument that most of these types of creatures don’t seem to suffer from a fear of consequences while they’re indulging themselves in their pathological lying and cheating-but my parents allege that eventually it catches up to them and they stress constantly when it comes crashing down.
June 26, 2009 at 6:42 pm
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