Lt. Hightower


And so vacation ends…

 Bang

The car. Oh my GODS, the car. We got in a horrible 4 car collision on the 101 just south of San Francisco International Airport on Saturday. This is after 1.5 days of engaging in risky behaviour all over San Francisco (not dirty, read on as I spell it out later in the post) and a couple of hours after we finished dim summing it up with Quasi in REM at Yank Sing and buying Hightower’s family gifts in San Francisco’s Old Chinatown. The plan was to drive back on the 101 through Silicon Valley (*sigh*…AGAIN, because he didn’t get enough the first time around on Thursday) and stop by Palo Alto to check out the Stanford campus. I can’t resist a cute desi boy who looks at me with puppy dog eyes and says “We checked out the Google building but we haven’t seen Apple YET!!! Pleasssssssssssse!” Mostly I acquiesced because he looks out the car window the way cats sit on sills and look out at passing birds and squirrels.

So there we are, driving along, when traffic comes to one of those standstills, as it is wont to do on the highway. I had to come to a quick stop-but there was enough length between me and the car in front of me that I came to a full stop about a car length behind it.

 Oh yeah, and then we got rear ended at about 20 to 25 mph (he thinks 15 to 20 mph). It was one of those situations where I was like “should I bother quickly switching lanes just in case someone rearends me?” but I assume people driving are paying attention and I’m like “nah, I’ll just assume the people behind me will come to a stop.”

They DID come to a stop. All over my car’s ass. And if life couldn’t get any better-not only did we have the primary collision (Collision #1), the force of which pushed my car across the entire gap into the car in front of me, then we had the treat of a SECOND collision when the guy who hit US, got rearended by his own tailgater (Collision #2)-I’m guessing at even harder than he hit us.

 None of us were injured-but Hightower and I are suffering from major whiplash and we both had bruising where the seatbelts prevented us from pitching headfirst into the windshield (twice). The least damaged car was the one in front of us-since there was a gap between me and the car in front, they ended up with some slight fender damage from the force of my car hitting them as it was plowed from behind by Collision #1.   

My car (Car #2) survived front injuries, since the force between me and Car #1 was relatively light. But the back is gone. Guys, it is frocking GONE. We thought the only thing wrong with the car was the back bumper, an easy fix, but when we opened the trunk (which now doesn’t close, we got a full look at the level of damage). The entire trunk of the car in the back is crumpled and warped-as in the metal trunk is crushed from compression. Hightower has jerry rigged the car with tape-which is the situation now, for us to be able to take the 5 (quickest route) back down to Los Angeles. The engine is fine-but it basically needs an entire body overhaul in the back. They are going to have to replace the metal that makes up the trunk, the bumper and the sides of the back.

 Car #3 was crumpled in both front and back. I couldn’t even bring myself to look at the guy since I was so livid. Car #4 was the worst off-it was leaking guts all over the highway (some sort of fluid).

 Yes, we got rubbernecked. And we slowed traffic down on the 101 for a while through rubber necking and the fact that they had to completely stop traffic in order to allow our cars to drive on to the shoulder since the accident was on the other side of the highway.

 You know what was AWESOME? Driving slowly and gapping about 15 car lengths in front of us the entire ride home but seeing people tailgating us and pulling the “left” swerve to avoid hitting the back of our already massively frocked up car during traffic slowdowns. I would seriously clench in fear that we’d get rear ended every time I looked back and saw a car swerve left because they were approaching us too fast from behind.

I love California but I hate the drivers, seriously.

Whimper

The stress of the incredibly long ride home and the aftermath of the accident, coupled with our minor injuries left us EXHAUSTED. Hightower missed his ass-early flight back the next morning by 5 minutes (rather, he got there before the flight but missed the deadline for checking in luggage). So I did get him for an extra day since all the flights back to the East Coast were overbooked and he got the one seat on a flight that left this morning. It left me confused. Yeah, I was happy but it was just more stress for him, which was more stress and unhappiness for me. I like having my booboo around but not at the cost of dreading parental lectures on irresponsibility upon arrival. I suggested taking home a picture of the massively frocked up car and riding the whiplash “I could be DEAD” sympathy but desi parents can’t resist a well-timed lecture even AFTER you’ve learned your lesson, lol. 

I’ll follow up with another post about the vacation and there will be (AWESOME) photos when Hightower gets home and sends me some of the shots. Unfortunately we forgot to photograph the car with his digital camera but I’ll post a camera phone pic when I get the other ones from him. We changed plans, we didn’t do some stuff, we did a whole lot of other stuff. It was magnificent. And even though it ended all askew with the crash and the missed flight-we figured out that we’re both pretty mellow* and can work together effectively through crisis. 

With tape. Lots and lots and lots of tape.  

*Well…he is incredibly mellow. I am an anxious person who gets mellowed out by the mellow waves he radiates all over the place.   

Act 1 in Text Messages, whence Hightower rose frome his bed of repose to meet Monkeye in Gotham City.

(6:24 a.m.) 

Monkeye: Rise, rise, gentle lover, like the flaccid lovespear of an aging partner at a large law firm. The dreary sun doth chase across a dishwater sky and it be time for you to step into your chariot and the fiery beast that will carry you to me on the wind beneath my wings.

I swear to [expletive deleted] if you dont gte out of bed and get to bus statoin on time i will kill you. pardon spelling. Got up v. early to catch chinatown bus.

(6: 26 a.m.)

Hightower: Ladye, I rose at dawn’s early light. And Aurora, tracing her fingertips across Jupiter’s canvass, paled in comparison to your fearsome beauty.

Getting ready.

(6:41 a.m.)

Monkeye: Gallant knight, have thou climbed into thy chariot yet? It seems to me thy chariot departeth at a point fixed by the journey of Apollo.

It’s like TWENTY minutes till your bus leaves and I got up at 5 a.m., styled my hair and put on a hot outfit to come see you. V. lowcut. Am sitting on Chinatown bus, two hours from NYC. Who will appreciate this bosom?

(6: 42 a.m.)

Hightower: Ladye, fear not. Your siren call drew me from my nest of flowerpetals and moonbeams as were the sailors of Ulysses when the daiads called to them in the straits of Mallorca. Would I but miss an opportunity to smell the flower petals in thy hair?

Just left amid the “you’re going to miss the bus!” fanfare.

7: 13 (a.m.)

Hightower: Ladye, I have climbed into my chariot. Apollo himself nuzzles my thighs, bridles at my commanding touch. I stride forth into the great wide yonder, knowing you rest on the horizon.

I am waiting by the bus. I hope they serve free fried rice left over from last night at the carry out joint. I haven’t had breakfast yet.

(8:38 a.m.)

Monkeye: Good sir, how doth thy journey go? Do you yearn for me as I yearn for yew? That is to say, as a gentle flower yearns for a strong yew tree to help it carry the heavy burden of its beauteous winding form?

Where are you? I’m so [expletive] bored. Text me. OMG Burger King!

Hightower: The beast is strong, it is brazen. My only thoughts are of you.

The dude next to me just busted out his breakfast and it’s a really nice smelling cupcake :-( . this bus is rattling. I love it

(9:28 a.m.)

Hightower: Ladye, I yearn for you. Do you yearn for me? Please keep thy responses short for this carrier pidgeon is tired.

Lol…I keep waking up at toll plazas…Does that mean i’ll wake up every 5 minutes in NJ? We should d be in Delaware by now. Where are you?

(9:33)

Monkeye: Dearest, the chariot doth did stop at a country inn. We dined on mutton and porkpies and were serenaded by a lyre. All I could think of was thee.

Too many b**ches lined up to pee at BK. Couldn’t go after that. Back on bus. Smells smokey.

Hightower: my heart longs for thee and only for thee fair ladye. The beast doth make ground, but we are currently in stasis for brief repose.

We’re at a rest stop right now. The guy sitting next to me took off his fucking shirt to reveal a torn wifebeater. I can’t EAT next to these people!

(10: 53 a.m.)

Hightower: Ladye, travelling across the sky with one foot on Apollo’s head doth cause the body to grow most heated. Several carrier pidgeons have perished in the task of carrying out our correspondance. But their sacrifices are light in the face of our grande passione.

I just took off my shirt. The bus is not air conditoned. When in rome, or rather, when in Beijing…Sitting here in my undershirt suddenly feeling unemployed.

(11: 11 a.m.)

Monkeye: Brave knight! I have arrived at our destination. I shall await you with bated breath.

Got kicked off in Chinatown. Sorry missed your texts, asleep for most of it. No shirt on?? Are you sure this isn’t a porn bus?? ) (kisses)

Hightower: Ladye, your magniminous concern for my person doth cause my heart, my heart dear ladye, to swelle. Fear not for my being.

I just took off my sandals…this is totally a porn bus for women and gay men with an indo-chinaman fetish.

(11:18 a.m.)

Monkeye: Where art thou? Tis difficult to wait with bated breath, sir knight. It doth cause much bodily discomfort, related to intermittent gasping.

I’m HUNGRY. Get here SOON. ps, smells yummy here. I want to be fed as soon as you get off bus.

Hightower: Ladye, fear not, I shall arrive as Zeus revealed himself to Danae. Except for on a goldene chariote rather than as a golden showere.

So apparently you can open the window. LOL…It’s an emergency exit. This is an emergency!! I feel so much better now. My shirt is still off, yes.

(1:10 p.m.)

Monkeye: Lovere, I grew faint from the bating of breath and just awoke.

HUNGRY. WHERE TF are you? Get here soon. My hand looks delicious with packet of Sriracha in purse from lunch on Thursday. Am sitting on bench outside train station. Miss you. (kisses)

Hightower: Alas ladye, the beast doth buckle underneathe my commande. Expect my arrival imminently.

OMFG! They won’t take us to Chinatown. This dude is like “I have to make a call to see if I can drop you off there”…I’m in Madison Square Garden, I think. Stay put. I’ll come get you.

And thus, after many mishaps and shedding of clothing (due to extreme weather conditions on the chariot) Hightower and Monkeye were united when he climbed out of the bowels of the Earth and found her staring wanly and weakly at an aged Chinese gentleman repairing a pair of boots with pieces of wadded plastic. After gazing at her forlorn face, Hightower took Monkeye to eat Peking Ducke so as to revive her spirits. And it did.

Stay Tuned for Act II: Coney Island (not in Text messaging) 

I promise this is the last giddy Lt. Hightower-I’m-dating-a-giant-lalalala post for a while. Actually, it’s not so much about him as about my latest bad habit.

You know what? I feel like each relationship sinks me down to new levels of depravity and this one is no exception. I’ve turned into a motherfuckin’ texter!! In my defense, I’m going to state right upfront that I NEVER use texting code whatsoever (like “u” for “you” etc.) and I am scrupulous about grammar. Down to adding in the apostrophes when necessary.

The thing is that I don’t know exactly what urgent messages I’m sending to him all the time. I can’t even pinpoint when the texting thing got so out of hand. Oh wait, I do. It’s when I was reading on www.consumerist.com about rate hikes in texting fees and a little lightbulb went off in my head like “durrr, we have to pay for texts??” Except I didn’t know how long we had been texting for at that point, though Cingular later informed me it was 1337 texts previous to said epiphany (sent AND received, shit, I’m not that clingy). Readers, this is what comes of mingling with a younger man. These whippersnappers pull you into this, this cutting edge technology, and then you figure out T9 and from there it’s a short hop, skip and a jump to sending him a picture of your legs up on your desk in a pair of knee high boots.

Recently I was reading a rant by someone on a message board regarding the rudeness of individuals who insist upon texting even while interacting with others and I got all indignant being like “Oh, I would NEVER do that!” Except for the time I was on a conference call into HQ about insurance and I texted my way through most of it. Or like, last weekend when my Beaker and Bunsen were dropping me off at Midway and I was sitting in the back of their tragically desi guido car and texting away while they blithered on about this and that. And then my sister actually swivelled around from the front and in a totally momish voice was like are you motherfrocking texting That Boy??? (my whole family refers to Hightower as “That Boy” or “That Overly Tall Boy”). And I was sitting there with a look of adolescent guilt on my face trying desperately to cover the mouthpiece with my thumb, but too late, Hightower’s Ding! of responding text came too soon (“I got to fly home on first class hahahaha!”). 

At which point my sister harrumphed disgustedly, turned around in her seat and then fixed me with a caustic eye in the mirror. “This is what comes of dating a teenager, you know!” she noted to me, “he’s younger than Beaker and now you’ve been pulled into texting. What next? At least he got his braces off before you met up.”   

Actually, he had gotten his braces taken off the week before and I’ll say that his new teeth looked really superb. But I swear, he is totally not 15.

The thing is, I don’t know why it’s so necessary to text. I do know that today I was driving past the Walt Disney Concert Hall and I snapped a quick photograph for him. Or sometimes I just want to say “PS, I hate you…no I don’t” or as a sample Hightower text that has now lost all sense of context and now seems mildly inappropriate, he just wants to ask me “Yeah, but how do you keep it moist?”

Those are words to live by.